I'd Love to Hear Your Thoughts
Sent From: Courtnee JayCee
March 14, 2017
Hey Rose, I have an ex from years back who wants to enter into my life again. Us breaking up was his fault,
but now he says he has grown and matured, and that his love for me never went away.
I would love to hear your thoughts!
I think in a situation like this you have to factor in a number of things. How long has it been? What was the reason for the breakup?
To what capacity have you two been talking and do you sense any sort of change in this guy? I think the length of time it's been is important.
Time in most cases, not all speaks to maturity. I know that the Rose I am today is not the Rose I was 10 or even 5 years ago. Life's experiences
definitely play a significant part in that. What are his life's experiences? Has he been through anything that may cause him to look at life and
relationships differently? Why did you guys call it quits? If it was a matter of remaining faithful please way this decision heavily. Usually a man who
is comfortable enough to cheat on his partner will continue to do so, however if this was years ago he may be a changed man. Someone who is between
the ages of 16 to 25 who cheats is still trying to figure out themselves and what they want out of life and a relationship. Is this someone you enjoy being
around, talking to, can see yourself being with long term? Once we're over the age of 25, I believe it's time to start thinking about the future and the type of
person you want to be with long term. I wouldn't write this guy off just yet but I would consider everything I said.
Petty or Naw? Did I Fuck it Up?
Sent From: BAM
Jan. 4, 2017
Hey Rose, First I want to say great job for starting this blog! I'm so excited to read more! Here's some drama for your ass girlfriend! I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year. I'd say 75-80% of that time I was unhappy and he didn't seem to want to change or fix anything until I threatened to leave. When I broke up with him he contacted me about 2-3 weeks later being nice, portraying himself as a changed person, and said he wanted to meet in person because he wanted to talk about something important. A few weeks later I responded and we began communicating, but he started the slow/no texting which was a big issue in our relationship. I overreacted a few times and then he said he didn't want to talk to me anymore because I was acting like I used to act in the relationship. One day I sent him the wrong text which was meant for another guy (just a friend but someone I know likes me), and my ex was pissed! He cursed me out and said he wanted to get back together but he changed his mind because he can't trust me and I lied to him about not dealing with anyone. After that our communication was really shaky. I played nice for a day or so and he began the slow responses again. When he finally responded to me he said he didn't want anything at the moment. I told him I feel him and I wanted to talk to him to let him know I'm in a relationship with and old boyfriend (the guy I dated before I met him) and he flips his shit again! Saying he wanted to get back with me but he can't trust me, I'm a liar, I'm pushy and wanted him to get back in a relationship but he wanted to talk to get to know each other better first, I been dealing with this guy the whole time behind his back, and on and on. I said we can still be friends.. after all he was "friends" with every girl he ever stuck his pee pee in while we were together. He wasn't going for it. I lied to him though, I blocked the other guy months ago and don't want anything from him. I just wanted to give him a taste of his own medicine. And it seems his excuse for being busy at work and unable to text is a lie because he was texting paragraphs seconds after I would text him. And I also think he made fake pages or had somebody make fake pages to follow me on FB and IG like 5 different times. I still love him, and would consider something down the road. Just not a relationship right now. Am I PETTY? I'd love to hear your thoughts about the situation! P.S. Glad to be the first user post!
Fuck what up?! Girllllllaaaaaaa....you need to leave this whole fucked up situation alone! Clearly this m....boy is not ready for a serious relationship. Who exactly does he think he is? What exactly does he want you to do or be? To me it seems like he wants to have his cake and eat it too and in 2017 that's bullshit. Now you were in no way shape or form right for talking to someone else while you were in a relationship with this guy. If you give each other a title, then you should respect it. No one is forcing either one of you to be in a relationship. Why not just be single and do whatever you want to do? Which leads me to my next point. When you are not together, you owe him absolutely NO explanation whatsoever. You can talk to whomever you want; old, new or an alien from outer space! From my understanding you are not a mind reader and didn't know that he "wanted to get back together". That's child's play and he should've just said that. It may be cliche but actions speak louder than words. If he really and truly wanted to be together he would show that in responding in a timely manner and not spazzing out every chance he gets. So let me get this straight. When you text and he's at work he is so busy and can't respond but when he's got his panties in a bunch at work, he can text a whole dissertation? Nope, no sir, go ahead with all of that. Now I understand that you love this guy but if you are unhappy 75-80% of the time the odds of this thing working out is shitty! In the words of Ms. Turner herself, "what's love got to do with it"?