Online Dating: Yay or Nay?
If you haven't heard of online dating or aren't familiar with the multiple, various dating websites that are floating around the internet and the Google play store, than you've been living under a rock! There are so many different ways to meet, greet and date someone now, that it's almost impossible to keep up. From Tinder to Plenty of Fish, Black People Meet, Match.com and yes even Facebook the list goes on of apps and sites to do everything from socialize to hook up; but is online dating worth it?
Are we as a society to the point where we're so busy to go out and meet someone at a gathering or to be hooked up by friends that we'd rather sit on the couch and swipe left or right? Is the convenience of these apps a detriment to our social skills or a blessing in disguise?
Some would argue that online dating takes away from being out there and socializing with many kinds of people and the thrill of someone walking up to you and telling you they spotted you from across the room and offering to buy you a drink. However, how often have you been in that situation when someone you wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole asks, "Is this seat taken?" or says "yo ma, let me holla at you real quick!" Now you have a small window of opportunity to make a decision. Do you get up and walk away and risk being called a bitch or ugly, go to the bathroom and hope when you come out they're on to the next poor soul or sit there and pretend to be interested in whatever this guy is talking about?
ONLINE DATING YAYS
Dating online removes alot of what ifs and makes it somewhat easier for you to make a decision on whether or not you want to give someone the time of day. Using a dating app allows you to create a profile, describing your best self. You can take your time and list your most date worthy attributes and exactly what you are looking for in a partner. You can also tell potential dates what kinds of things interest you and what you like to do for fun. This eliminates trying to figure out what makes the perfect first date. It's a quicker way to weed out people that you have nothing in common with. Do you want kids? Would you date someone with kids? Are pets cool? Are they educated? In a nutshell, what are the pros? 1. No more bars or awkward social event. 2. No guessing! You can be very specific about your needs and your wants. 3. Google me baby! You can look up someone before you even go out with them and find out if there's any funny business you need to know about. Plus who doesn't have a Facebook? 4. Your first date should be great. Eliminate all the butterflies of a first date by talking on the phone and texting way before you meet in person. 5. A plethora of choices and a wide range of opportunities!
ONLINE DATING NAYS
I get all the time from people, "what if they're crazy?" I say this, if I'm walking through a grocery store and someone approaches me and asks for my number, how is that any different from meeting someone online? There's really know way to predetermine that. I could get hooked up by a friend and the guy ends up being coo coo for cocoa puffs! So why not? However, I will also say that you have to be careful in either circumstance. Let's look at the cons:
1. Some would argue that there's no surprises. It may be like something is missing when you already know someone before meeting in person. 2. A profile may be so honest and detailed that there's no mystery left. Maybe the spark that would have been kindled upon meeting never gets lit.
3. TMI- Having access to all of that knowledge about someone will not only eliminate mystery, but it can backfire if there is too much information. After all, we all make mistakes, make enemies and make wrong turns here and there. We don't want to be judgmental. 4. No excitement. Being a little nervous and feeling a sense of anticipation can be healthy and necessary. That type of excitement can only come from an unorchestrated meeting. 5. People lie! Don't set yourself up for failure. If your expectations are too high and someone's profile is inaccurate you're left disappointed and back to the drawing board.