Getting Back With An Ex: Should You Do It and How To Make It Work!
Has your ex been calling or texting you lately? Are they telling you they miss you and want to give it another shot? Are you contemplating giving them another chance? Or maybe the breakup was your fault and you want a chance to redeem yourself.
I absolutely think it's possible to get back together with an ex after a break up. However, if you're going to do it be smart about it. Don't let your ex run game on you and tell you they've changed and it will be different this time without seriously doing your research.
Why Did You Break Up?
Ask yourself this very important question.
Consider the reasons behind your break up and whether or not getting back together will result in a healthy relationship. Reasons like infidelity, abuse and other toxic behaviors are in my opinion deal breakers. You don't ever want to reconcile with a partner that will mistreat you and leave you feeling devalued and mistreated. Your happiness and self esteem should always be at the forefront of any relationship. Love yourself before you can love anyone else.
Are You Truly Committed To Making It Work?
Don't go back because you're lonely. Sometimes taking some time to be alone and work on yourself is best. Make sure that you are willing to work on whatever your role in the end of the relationship was and that you're open to giving your partner a chance to work on themselves as well.
Do the work! That means actually discussing all of the reasons it didn't work before and improving yourselves by developing skills based on relationship maintenance and communication.
Are You Going Back For the Right Reasons and Is Your Partner On the Same Page?
Don't go back for selfish reasons. If your partner was providing money and shelter then find a way to get those things yourself! You don't need anyone to validate you or to carry you and your relationship shouldn't be based on material things or what your partner can do for you. It should be based on mutual love, respect and a desire to satisfy each other. It won't work and it won't be healthy if you're not on the same page. Discuss each other's thoughts, feelings, desires, and what each person is willing to do to rebuild the relationship and what revisiting it means for him or her.